Lily Asked: My brother is SO addicted to video games please help!?

1. my brother is so addicted to video games, he plays video games for like half the day and he NEVER does his homework ( he's in highschool. and he's 15 yrs old) and he always plays games instead of doing his schoolwork. my mom limits him to play for 3 hours a day but he always goes off to his room to play games in secret.. he almost drove my mom out of our house because she was so sick and tired of all the crap he was doing. and today she caught him in his room trying to do games and he kept lying and lying to her…
he doesn't hang out with as many friends as he used to and his grades are dropping lower and lower into the C-F ranges…
this has been going on since forever , and whenever my parents catch him trying to play games in secret, he'll always do whatever to apologize and get it over with but in less than an hour, he starts to play games again..
what should we do? should we just send him to a therapist? or ..? i don't even know anymore.

mrssrmx Asked: Air Force at 17. No plan for life yet. Help is appreciated.?

i'm 17, i'm a senior in high school, and i have no clue what i'm trying to do with my life… i was considering just doing community college for 2 years where i grew up, in Maryland, for nursing, but both of my parents ALWAYS complain about money. my mom tells me she doesn't even know how she's going to buy me a car, she complains about money so much. and i don't even know if that's what i want to do; school. so when i saw a man in an army suit in my school the other day, it reminded me of how i used to want to be a nurse in the military. so i started looking it up again, bc i was told that education is free when enlist in the army, navy, or air force (which is what i want to do.) and i was informed about all of the benefits and bonuses of enlisting at an early age.
i was told i could enlist at 17, but i have no clue what i would do or how i would do it, and what i would have to go through. or if i would even be accepted, bc i have asthma.
i really need help; i have SO many questions. if you think you could possibly have a lot of answers for me, please post your email address or some way i could contact you.
thank you thank you thank you

Paula Shields Asked: Is she too young for me?

Right I like this girl who is 8 years younger than me but she is perfect and don't say you don't know her that well if you think she's perfect but I know all about her and she's just wow. Firstly, she's absolutely beautiful and I mean so pretty with a gorgeous face and perfect figure, she's a lovely person and is so charitable and is constantly doing extra work to help other people just out of pure kindness. She is gifted with brains!! I mean she is so smart! She is just naturally intelligent and knowledge just pours out of her, everyone has such high hopes for her. She is in love with a sport, I mean OBSESSED and I happen to be on the team which Is a big bonus for me. She lives in a mansion of a house and her parents are the most decent people in the world. She also really likes me too and makes it clear enough but I have a girlfriend and Im eight years older and shes still in her teens and it sounds creepy but she's not like a normal teenager she is SO mature for her age and she's just perfect should I go for It or try and get over her? (btw I know it says Paula shields but Im not a lesbian, I'm on my sisters account)

Eminems Canada Giirly Asked: Creme of Mushroom Soup, or Smokey Bacon Clam Chowder? Can’t decided. (Loser Me)?

So my parents are gone for the night so I cleaned up the house, and now I'm stucking making food for myself. And if you know me, you'd know to never let me cook.
See my parents are both Exucutive Chefs so.. I get nice fancy food everynight and I've never really had to make food for myself..
SO first off.
Which soup? Creme of Mushroom or Smokey Bacon Clam Chowder?

And..well like I said I don't make food a lot..
Oh god. This is embrarassing.
HOW DO I MAKE SOUP?

Grace is better as First Name Asked: Christian, why was I "afraid" of Christianity when I was little?

I was an Agnostic as a child. And now that I am a Christian, I have a totally different REALITY.
Back then, I thought my "reality" was THE reality. you know what I mean?
MY "reality" was, pp cease existing after we die. And we came from nowhere. Big Band plus Evolution, you know? That was my reality. And that reality of mine was SO real to me that when the lady who spread the gospel to me told me that Satan, the Devil exists, I was so shocked and scared?!

I felt so afraid!!… And all of a sudden, I thought that if there wasn't a Jesus, all loving, all mighty, what would happen to me, a mere human being, a "natural" being, now knowing the existence of the supernatural world?

I remember that before I believed in God, I was afraid of everything supernatural. My nature was to avoid at all cost to accept the fact that the supernatural existed, bc that made me feel insecure! Powerless, so my mind supressed the Truth!!

And you know that in this days in History and the regions I grew up in… I've heard of the existence of Christianity since I had memory. I mean, I went to a Catholic elementary EVEN THO my parents aren't believers. I prayed with the teacher and classmates since age six. I believed in Jesus when I prayed. That was school education. And the country I lived in was Catholic. But since my parents are strong Atheist, I chose to follow my parents beliefs without questioning!! I thought my parents are right, the other ppl are wrong.

I didn't dig nor seek to find out more about God.
I was afraid of Christianity just as now I learned to be afraid of the non-Christian, worldly things!

It's like, it switched around!

And I didn't know I actually belonged to Satan!

Now I find it surprising that I had been his without even believing!!!

LC Asked: Need some man advice ASAP! Really upset and don’t know what do and no answers yet?

Need some man advice ASAP! Really upset and don't know what do and no answers yet?

I have this friend for 5 yrs and we live long distance(200miles apart) we keep in touch and have seen each other 3x in the past 5 yrs. we have had sex before he got married and kept email/long distant friends. he is very close friend to me but last year his parent died and he separated from his wife and moved home. he suddenly over the holidays became distant but still talked to me. I had to text him happy thanksgiving, merry xmas, and happy new year. he wanted me to call him and I did but he was soo busy all the time moving home. so i gave up calling cause i felt i was chasing him but he told me to call him. well in jan i told him i just wanted to be "friends" and to keep our relationship where it is. he started to text me more for feb. he said happy valentines day and all. but in march -april for 3 weeks he got distant and no contact. mind you in 2010 we went from text/email 5x a week to 0 x a week. in april i asked him if he was seeing a girl cause of the distance or saying he was always "busy". he replied that no gf (no body wants him) and that he was keeping "Busy" to keep from being depressed over the divorce and parent dying. so i gave him space and only texted him when he texted me. well i have for 3 mths asked him to come down and see me but he says he needs to figure "how" to see me? what the hell ? how to see me? u get in a car and drive down to see me.what is up with that? SO do u think he is avoiding me do u think i came on too strong? i love him but he doesn't know it and i think i will never tell him to ruin things right now since he has alot on his plate with divorce and all. I just want to be part of his life like we were last year but he seems like he is back to being aquint again. Do i send him an email asking him if i came on too strong and that we are just friends and i just want to spend time with him and hang out . every 3 yrs is not much time to hang. do i just pull away and be quiet and see if he comes around. his sister friended me on face book in april and we chatted for awhile and now she is no contact too. very strange. i texted her a few times and no reply and then i retext her again and she said in a text that she is just busy with working and taking care of 2 kids and her mom is kicking out of the house. i texted her that if she needed anything i am here for her. i am soo confused? What is happening here? what should i do?

Beachy Keen2 Asked: Questions for parents with small children that live in an apartment.?

So Saturday I just moved in to an apartment (from a house) with my 1 1/2 year old son and almost 4 year old son.They are SO loud.Not just yelling, but jumping, crawling etc.How do/did you keep them quiet?After talking to my almost 4 year old and reminding him often he's pretty good about it now, but my 1 1/2 year old there is no talking to him about being quiet.He doesn't yell much or anything but when he crawls it probably sounds like a stampede to the people downstairs.They came up once on the day I was moving everything in Saturday and asked me to keep it down.:-SBut I can't help that my 1 year old crawls loudly.I guess they'll just have to deal with it?Not sure what the consequences could be to being loud.But it's not like I'm having a party.I have 2 small children.

marge Asked: Please help me. Why won’t he compromise on where to live?

My fiance and I are getting married in just a couple of months. He keeps telling me we are living in his current town. He won't budge… It is SO far from where I work and out of the way from everything else. I keep telling him no I refuse. And he says "we'll see."
My mother says to tell him I will leave if he won't compromise. But I don't want to leave. I want him to compromise.

I don't know what is going on. He gets mad and tells me he will get a house with his mother. I don't know why he says this. (not her living there but her name on the house) They have yet to cut the umbillical chord, to be quite frank.

I don't know what to do. I want to just curl up in a ball and die. How could someone be so impossible?
If we live there my commute will have gone from 20 minutes to a full hour, more money on gas. He would conveniently be probably 1 mile from his parents and be there constantly or them be over our house constantly. I would rather that bit be somewhere we are both happy with. Why pay so much on gas, a home, 40 minutes a day driving then to 2 hours a day driving, and not be happy? Why?

I told him I refuse. I worry his mother is helping with our downpayment and then him thinking that means the decision is out of my hands. That is not how both a serious relationship or a marriage works. Period. You don't tell me ok we are getting this house without me saying ok also. And I think he thinks this is what is going to happen.

Please don't tell me to simply leave– give me advice on how to fix/help this situation. That is my decision, I need to know how though. I have told him he would be happy and I would be happy with wherever we live, but he says why does everything have to be a compromise? This is the "everything."

Dana Asked: Why are my parents SO strict at me?

I asked this kinda question before, but I didn't get enough answer. So here it is again:

I'm an African American woman and I think being born black has been a curse for me. Don't ask why. My (real) hair is really corpse and kinky. The longest that my hair's been is past my shoulders but not pass my elbows. People thin that black girls can't have long hair, and keep asking them if that's weave. When I was younger, my parents NEVER let's me go swimming, unless I have a swimming cap on. I HATE wearing those. Most people in my family NEVER go swimming that much, well some do. The tell me, "No swimming cap, no swimming!" My relatives are telling me to be careful when I go swimming or I'll get my hair wet. They don't to my younger sister, well sometimes. My younger half sister's multiracial. Her mom (who is my stepmother) is Caucasian and Costa Rican and our dad's black. She's SOOOOO lucky to have natural, thick and curly hair and she's gorgeous. The other girls other races are SO lucky, THEY don't have to wear a swimming cap. I barley see a black girl go swimming. It's like black girls aren't allowed to go swimming! I think White, Hispanic, Asian or whoever has better hair than black people do.!

BTW, I'm a 21 year old with asperger's.

WHY DID I HAVE TO BE BLACK?!!!!! I HATE IT! I HATE IT! I HATE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

I had a perm put on my hair at 10 and it broke off really bad!

Kelsey Asked: Is he just a player? Should I give him a chance?

Ok so me and this guy dating in the winter and we broke up a few weeks before Christmas ( I broke up with him ). I broke up with him because I just felt like we were rushing into things and he just really wasnt my type of guy. Also whenever I told someone at school who I was going out with, I would always get a bad reaction. Everybody who knew him said he was a player so I couldnt trust him. He even told me that he couldnt tell you how many girls he went out with in his lifetime because he lost track. So after we broke up I stopped talking to him. But he would always text me and message me. SO then we started talking. In a lot of our conversations he would mention how good of a kisser I was -___- Even when he got another girl friend, he still flirted with me. So anyway last night we were talking and now Im considering weather or not to take him back. But Im confused if he is a player or not and if everything hes saying to me is just a joke. What do you think I should do? heres the important parts of our convo (its too long to type the whole thing)..

Him: lmao yup oh I remember this time this keep kept telling my friends boyfriend that she was cheating off him with me and he called her a dirty skank and **** and she was like Fine if everyone believes it! and she kissed me right there. Lol Im sorry but I didnt even notice the kiss cuase I was too busy laughing at the look on the guys face.

Me: LOL xD thats hilarious but that guy deserved it hahahah

Him: She was ok at kissing, but you were better.

Me: Thanks (: You were pretty good too lol

Him: idk you were way better, like you put feeling into it xD

Me: lol well there were a lot of good feeling going on at the time xD

Him: yeah to bad that time past for you :/

Me: Yeah haha sorry :/ Do you still have feeling for me? Cause your acting like it.

Him: wait do you?

Me: Answer my question first

Him: Well a lil bit like not incredibly cuz I Dont think you do

Me: lol awhh (: well honestly I miss how I felt with you, but I just think you arent my type of guy Plus I dont get back with my exs

Him: Wait how am I not your type

Me: ok but dont get mad you seem like you care a lil bit too much about how your girl looks. I want a guy who will think Im beautiful with no makeup and sweat pants on lol. Also I dont like how you move on really fast after a relationship, just being honest. You can say whatever the hell you want about me

Him: lol well thats not true. I mean between you and me, I have dated girls that well werent that pretty. I mean looks get my attention but the personality draws me in. thats what happened with you, I mean you were real beautiful and I really enjoyed getting to know you. I am still trying to get over you. I mean I dont show it cuz I was taught not to show your emotions unless you have to. But I didnt anyone after we broke up until months later.

Him: oh and I have nothing to say about you, I mean I have nothing against you. Well I can say compliments but nothing bad.

Me: lol well thanks but like I said, Im just giving my honest opinion. I had no idea it took that long for you to get over me and its ok to show your true emotions with me. But I dont understand why you like me. There are better girls.

Him: So what! Those girls didnt spend time drinking a slushie at target and get to know me. I didnt hold those girls in my arms and dance with while praying to god I didnt trip or embarrass myself so I wouldnt make you think I was a loser. I didnt sit around with a frown on my face all day after getting dumped by those girls. This girls arent you.

Me: thats really sweet but Im sure you have said that to other girls. I mean com on chris we have only been on a few dates.. How much could you know about me.

Him: You play soccer, you respect your parents decisions, you have good taste in friends, your very cute, your real fun to talk to, and whenever I talk to you it can sometimes be hard for me because I dont want to say the wrong thing and make you think badly of me.

Me: aww (: Well you said the right thing that time xD

Him: Thank you (: plus why would I try so hard for some girl when I could have someone else. Cuase I like her alot and I enjoy being with her and she could have the worst have the worst hair day, wearing the ugliest baggiest clothes, and wearing no makeup and Ill tell the world KELSEY IS THE GIRL IM CRUSHING ON.

Me: thanks (: but Im still unsureif you are my type of guy. And I just really dont have time for a relationship right now

Him: Im not asking for a serious relationship, just dating and taking time to get to know each other.